Understanding And Recognizing Domestic Abuse

By Jayne Rutledge


Domestic abuse or spousal violence is the act of one partner forcefully trying to subdue or dominate the other partner by means of fear. Now the dominating party may use of violence, threats, blackmail, or any other means in order to control the subdued partner. Of course if this type of act is to be stopped, it is always important to understand and recognize it first.

Now one thing about spousal violence is that it discriminates no one which means that it may happen to anyone. Whether one may be old or young, male or female, black or white, this type of act may actually happen and will create a lot of long term traumas when it comes to marriage and partnership. This is how bad this kind of abusive act and the extent of the effects would go really far.

Now abusive behavior is actually not an overnight thing wherein the dominating partner becomes abusive the next day. Actually, one would usually start first from a verbal form which usually comes in the form of small and petty insults or put downs. From there, humiliating and hurtful words might spring up in the process.

Of course the hurtful words and belittling acts may lead up to outward violence such as hitting and slapping. Now usually, the violence would start out light like slaps to the face or to the arm. However, if it is left unattended, the dominating partner may actually start hitting the subdued spouse really hard.

Of course there is also another form of abusive behavior that is mostly portrayed by men. This is known as sexual abuse which is also a form of rape and may happen even to those who are already married. What happens here is that the dominating partner will be forcing his wife to have sex with him in a manner that may actually hurt her.

Of course the signs of being a victim of this kind of behavior is actually quite obvious. If one acts very timid and seemingly scared in front of his or her spouse, then it is actually obvious that something is going in their house. Usually, victims would be on their toes and watching out for their actions as they are scared of offending their spouses.

One of the main causes of this kind of behavior would actually be insecurity. Because the dominating partner does not feel like he actually amounts to anything, then he would rather just hurt his spouse in order to push himself up. In a way, that would actually serve as an ego booster for his insecurity as the dominating partner will finally feel like he or she is in control of something.

Domestic abuse is definitely a big problem that must be stopped because of all of the bad effects. Being a victim of this type of act would actually result in low self esteem or excessive fear of people. No person ever deserves to be a victim of such madness.




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